Life to the Full!

Posts made in September, 2014

Three Things to Make Dreams Come Alive

By on Sep 30, 2014 in Blog |

“Our false self demands a formula before he’ll engage; he wants a guarantee of success; and mister, you aren’t going to get one.” John Eldredge, Wild at Heart. Can you relate?  There’s a part of you that wants to go for it, that wants to step out, enter into the adventure of your life.  The part that just knows there’s more… More than the job that’s sucking the life out of you; more to the marriage or relationship that once was so full and rich and now seems dry and empty; more than the safety of the known and the familiar which, perhaps, has become something of a comfortable prison. There are key points in our lives when we arrive at a crossroads and have to decide which path to take.  Robert Frost, in the Road Not Taken, said, “Two roads diverged in a wood, and I – I took the one less traveled by, and that has made all the difference.” But anyone who’s faced those key moments of decision – which path to take, which choice to make – likely knows how hard it can be to choose and then, having chosen, how much harder even than that to take those first steps. Do I leave the familiar?  Do I risk change?  I hate it, but I know it, and know what to do day in and day out.  What if I don’t know what to do?  What if I can’t figure it out?  What if I fail?  What if people see I don’t have what it takes, that I don’t know what I’m talking about?  What if… what if… what if… There’s a great line in a Jars of Clay song that goes, “I would jump if I knew you’d catch me.”  Indeed. But most of us don’t jump.  We stay stuck, frozen on the edge in whatever fear grips us, telling ourselves we can’t, or we shouldn’t, or whatever we tell ourselves that keeps us living small and afraid of… us. So how do I get going?  What do I have to do to take the plunge, choose the path less traveled and head off down roads not taken, at least by me, and risk...

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Don’t Stop

By on Sep 23, 2014 in Blog |

Maybe you’ve made a great start at something in the past, but then sort of let it fizzle out.  It could have been a job, a relationship, or a project at home or at work.  It could be, well, just about anything. I know I have.  Part of the problem can be motivation.  Sometimes we just get distracted.  It may be the timing’s bad, with too many things going on, and we just can’t keep all the balls in the air.  And sometimes we just can’t get any clarity about what direction we’re supposed to go.  It can be a lot of things. I just had the privilege of presenting at the “Enough Already” Conference over the weekend.  It was a great way to spend a mostly rainy Saturday.  I got great content from the speakers I heard, and the audience interaction was fantastic.  People really engaged with the speakers, and it was obvious a lot of people are searching for more in their lives, families, careers, and finances. I know I was challenged to take more action in key areas of my life – I always am after such an event – and I’m sure lots of others in attendance were, too. But that was Saturday.  And boy, Saturday is getting to be a long time ago here in Busy-Land.  Yesterday was church.  After church there’s a visit to mom’s and some family time.   A little bit of football to wrap things up, and then get ready for the workweek. Now, it’s Monday.  Off to work early, where I saw eight counseling clients back to back today on either side of a lunch meeting.  After that it’s home for a quick dinner and then it’s time to switch gears and get back to work on the coaching biz.  And so it goes… for a lot of us. Your busy life no doubt has things that keep you running, too.  Take my last client of the day today.  Here’s a family guy that works all day in a draining job, has one outside-of-work obligation after another – and yet he just took on one more thing! In counseling he’s been working on his family and marriage.  But, as he...

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A Blatant Sales Pitch

By on Sep 17, 2014 in Blog |

Sometimes you just have to come right to the point, and in this week’s post that’s what I’m doing.  So here it is: if you’re fortunate enough to live in the Traverse City, MI area, and you can leverage a few hours out of your Saturday, you don’t want to miss the first “Enough Already” Conference being held at the Great Wolf Lodge Conference Center.  Doors open at 8:30, and the conference kicks off at 9 a.m. I’m truly honored to be part of this event sponsored by radio station WLJN.  In addition to yours truly the conference will feature Dennis Prout of Prout Financial Design, Bill Marsh, Jr. of Bill Marsh Automotive, and Dr. Meg Meeker, nationally recognized author of six books, a sought-after expert on family, children’s health, and parenting teens, and radio show host. It’s a terrific line up of local and nationally recognized experts in areas as diverse as financial planning and investing, career building and personal branding, and how to take communication in the family between parents and children to a whole new level. To kick things off I’ll be walking attendees through three life-coaching exercises to help them identify where they are in key areas of their lives, what they want more of, and how to get there. The day promises to be fast paced and interactive.  There are mini-panels built in at the end of the first two sessions and then again after the last two sessions so attendees have the chance to interact directly with the presenters and get their questions answered in a way not possible in many conferences. You’ve probably been to conferences or workshops where you left thinking, “well that’s nice – how do I do that?” If you want more than that, and you’re looking for practical tools and strategies that you can walk out with and put into practice right now, I promise you’ll be pleasantly surprised at the practical focus of “Enough Already.”  The conference was designed from the beginning to help attendees begin to make changes in vital areas of their lives immediately, not “at some point in the future” by providing how-to information instead of just vague ideas or “happy thoughts.” So –...

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Three Things to Keep You Motivated

By on Sep 9, 2014 in Blog |

No matter how hard you work at identifying what you want to change and no matter what steps you take to get there it can all fall apart if you don’t stay motivated. Motivation is one of the hardest things to conjure up.  So many things call to us, vie for our attention, and steal our energy.  Yet the key in so many important efforts is staying motivated. I’m excited about the launch of my new “Personal Life Plan: Seven Steps to a Life Worth Living” in October, and one of the things I think people will find most useful are the three motivational tools included. While most of us would agree that motivation comes from within there are things you can do to help generate and sustain motivation.  Sure, whatever I’m doing has to be important enough to make me want to learn how, get started, and follow through.  But along the way, even that may not be enough to keep me going. So, what can light a fire under me and help me push through the roadblocks and other obstacles along the way? There are at least three things I know that can motivate and propel me when I get tired, feel lazy, or fall into negative self-talk like “this will never work,” or, “this is impossible!”  They’ve worked for countless others, and I’m betting they work for you, too! 1.   What can I expect to gain by following through? Here’s where you start.  Make this as personal as possible to begin to build your motivation and commitment to make positive change or to follow through on something.  Identify as many positive benefits to you and your life as you can.  There’s nothing wrong with having a personal stake in the game.  Identify clearly what it is, and keep this question focused on what you, personally, have to gain.  Don’t make it about your family, job, or business – only you.  Go ahead and list them on a sheet of paper or a document. 2.   What can I expect to happen if I don’t follow through? This is the flip side, the dark side.  This is where I get very concrete about what will likely happen...

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