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Posts made in October, 2014

What Are You Afraid Of?

By on Oct 27, 2014 in Blog |

My niece’s baby, born 15 weeks early, died last week. I don’t want this to be a downer post, but like many events in life, this got me thinking about a lot of things. And one of the things it reminded me of is this – the impact of a person’s life isn’t measured by their size or the length of their life. Her baby was an inspiration to a legion of people as they pulled for her, cheered for her, cried for her, and came together in a community of people who otherwise may never have heard of one another.   So many people rallied around her mom and dad as they comforted, prayed, and ultimately cried together. My wife and I were talking about this on a walk yesterday, about what an inspiration her short life had been, and she asked, “but then what do you say about her death?” So what do you say about her death?  It was tragic.  She died “too soon.”   Her short life was a struggle much of the time.  And I don’t buy all that stuff about “God just needed another little angel in heaven,” or that “it was just her time…” So, what do you say about death? Well, my worldview tells me death is unnatural. We resent death and rebel against it most of the time because we weren’t designed for death, and deep down we know it. We were designed for life. But if we’re honest, most of us fear death. And fearing death makes us live small in a thousand little ways. Every time we respond to life in fear, we die a little, lose a little more of ourselves, a little more of the life we were designed for.  It’s one of the reasons we celebrate cancer survivors and remember the story of Lazarus.  We love it when life wins because it’s supposed to. But when we fear death in any of it’s forms, it’s sort of like the death of a thousand cuts.  And it can be about almost anything. People sometimes fear, to the point of terror – losing a job; something happening to the kids; getting sick; losing a loved one; never finding that...

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How a Focus on What You Can Do (And Not on What You Can’t) Can Save Your Life

By on Oct 15, 2014 in Blog |

Sometimes we focus too much on what’s right in front of us. Too often we allow that to define our reality. But when we let what we are experiencing right now determine what we believe about ourselves or our situation in life, we run the risk of losing hope. If we’re not careful what we see is what we believe will always be. Have you ever fallen into that trap? Maybe you’re there now. Is your world defined by what you see? Have you lost heart somewhere along the way? Maybe you’re burned out, tired of, or tired from. If you’ve lost a sense of “something greater is still to come,” or if you’ve “forgotten” your dreams and feel like you’re running on duty, obligation, and the things you have to do, you’re not alone. And, maybe it’s time to reclaim your passion and start to believe in a future filled with what’s possible, rather than with what’s right in front of you. Tony Robbins shared a tragic but inspiring story about three men shot down in Vietnam about the same time and imprisoned in cells somewhat less than two feet wide and a little less than six feet long.   A hole in the floor to do their business was the only accommodation they had. This is where these men were kept. Over time, Tony shared, one of the pilots committed suicide, one wound up in a psychiatric hospital, and one said something to the effect of, “Best seven years of my life.” How’s that? The former pilot went on to explain that he developed the closest relationship with God he ever had in part because God was the only person he had to talk to. He went into prison in pretty good shape, but despite the limited space he figured out how to keep himself fit. In one area after another, this man not only survived, he thrived. And naturally Robbins wanted to know how he did it. He explained that when he wound up imprisoned with no idea what the outcome would be, he began to focus not on what he couldn’t do and what his circumstances were but rather on what he could do and what...

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Three Reasons To Take Control of Your Time with This One Simple Coaching Tool

By on Oct 7, 2014 in Blog |

Coaching clients often look for ways to be more productive and structure their time and / or their day more effectively.  It seems no matter how successful people are they continue looking for ways to get a better handle on one of the most precious resources they have – time. Before sharing one highly effective tool for getting a handle on how you use the time you have each day, let me give you three reasons why you should structure your schedule more intentionally. First, there’s almost always room to manage your schedule more effectively.  Most of us aren’t intentionally budgeting our time.  According to an online article in the Harvard Business Review from May, 2014, entitled Your Scarcest Resource, the authors point out most companies do a poor job with time management both individually and at the corporate level.  Comparing fiscal responsibility to time management, they note: “An organization’s time, in contrast, goes largely unmanaged. Although phone calls, e-mails, instant messages, meetings, and teleconferences eat up hours in every executive’s day, companies have few rules to govern those interactions. In fact, most companies have no clear understanding of how their leaders and employees are spending their collective time. Not surprisingly, that time is often squandered—on long e-mail chains, needless conference calls, and countless unproductive meetings. This takes a heavy toll. Time devoted to internal meetings detracts from time spent with customers. Organizations become bloated, bureaucratic, and slow, and their financial performance suffers. Employees spend an ever-increasing number of hours away from their families and friends, with little to show for it.” The tendency to fly by the seat of the pants or be driven from one “urgent” task to the next appears to be how the majority of organizations and the individuals “manage” time.  This is costly for all involved and affects everything from the bottom line to employee’s personal lives. Second, managing your time allows you to get more done with far less stress.  Planning your day is one of the best coping skills for managing stress.  Whether you have an overwhelming amount to do, or just a little each day, having a plan and a schedule for how to get it done allows you to accomplish more...

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