Ready for a New Year?
This is the time a lot of us start to look toward the New Year. We think hopeful thoughts about what we’ll do in the coming year, and set resolute goals that embody our good intentions.
Have you ever set a New Year’s resolution or goal?
Have you ever felt like it took about three weeks for those resolutions to fall by the way side? Or for your goals to evaporate?
Ever been frustrated by that? Me too.
So this year, I’m doing something different. Something I’ve been coming to over the past several years, but didn’t really have a name for.
I do this all the time with coaching clients. I even do it with counseling clients. But I didn’t see what I was actually doing.
Now I do.
There are a lot of ways of thinking about this, but here’s the key difference between setting a goal and what I’m talking about.
Instead of focusing on the goal, focus on the steps you’ll take every day, week, month, etc., to get there. Let the goal stretch you, and let what you do every day be a commitment you can keep.
Example of a goal: I will no longer smoke. If you ever smoked, you know that goal will stretch you! Example of a commitment you keep daily: I will suck on a mint every time I want a cigarette, so that I don’t smoke today.
There are lots of reasons why this shift is important, and if you’re interested in more in-depth discussions about this idea here are a couple of resources I’d love for you to check out. I think they’d be worth your time.
Think of them as belated Christmas gifts. Or, presents for your New Year.
One is from the creator of the Dilbert cartoon, Scott Adams. What he has to say may hold a few surprises!
The other is from another blogger I’ve just started following, James Clear. James breaks this down in a way that mostly makes me go, “what he said!”
Anyway, both have a lot to say about goal setting and a slightly different way of looking at the new year – and your life.
So, there you go. If you’re ready for a new way to tackle goals besides the same old frustrating “set-em-and-forget-em” method, I think you’ll enjoy what James and Scott have to say.
And please, if you check out those articles, let me know what you think! I could really use the input as I think about what sort of offerings to work on this year.
Meanwhile, I hope you had a wonderful Christmas holiday and that you’re looking forward with anticipation toward a rich and rewarding New Year.