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What Do You Want?

By on Feb 25, 2015 in Blog |

Losing people close to us, if nothing else, should cause us to pause and consider what’s important. More than that, though, such times can bring us back to questions the normal pace of life often steals away from us.

Questions like, “What do I really want?” As in, “What really matters to me?”

I know too often I’ve lost track of these questions before or, worse, actively buried them. My schedule, my family, my ‘success,’ and even at times my faith seemed to require it of me. As though the answers to such questions are inconsistent or separate from the other pieces of my life.

But then you come to a place you can’t ignore the questions. Where, in fact, the answers are required to go forward with any clarity or certainty, and it pulls you up short because – well – you just don’t know.

As I have a couple of times lately I want to share with you a post I received that spoke to me. I hope you pass it along if it speaks to you. This one is from Desire, a book by John Eldredge, posted via e-mail on Ransomed Heart’s blog under the title Dare We Come Alive?

Please note I’ve edited the piece to a few points that really jumped out at me, but I encourage you to check it all out – along with their other great resources – by clicking here. Meanwhile, I hope you dare to come alive and draw closer to what you really want.

“The reason we don’t know what we want is that we’re so unacquainted with our desire. We try to keep a safe distance between our daily lives and our heart’s desire because it causes us so much trouble. We’re surprised by our anger and threatened by what feels like a ravenous bear within us.

Do we really want to open Pandora’s box? Dare we awaken our hearts to their true desires? Dare we come alive? Is it better, as the saying goes, to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all? We’re not so sure.

Our dilemma is this: we can’t seem to live with desire, and we can’t live without it. In the face of this quandary most people decide to bury the whole question and put as much distance as they can between themselves and their desires. It is a logical and tragic act. The tragedy is increased tenfold when this suicide of soul is committed under the conviction that this is precisely what Christianity recommends. We have never been more mistaken.”

My last client today was wrestling with just this thing. “I have no idea what I’m supposed to be doing!” At 40 this is hugely frustrating, and it leaves him feeling stuck and like there’s something wrong with him.

Of course there’s nothing wrong with him, and the fact he’s asking the right questions now and is no longer shrinking back from what he wants virtually assures he’ll get unstuck at some point sooner rather than later. But it takes time. And courage.

If you want a simple exercise – not easy, but simple – to get you going, check out my three-step guide, “Unstuck,” by clicking here.

I hope you take the time to figure this out. I know you’ll find the courage if you do.

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